On men an women Lia Bordon

On men and women: understanding and integrating two complementary types

In the context of modern society, we frequently find ourselves embroiled in debates about roles, identities, and expectations about gender. These discussions, often steeped in stereotypes and cultural norms about men and women, could be more constructive if we shifted our focus from biological sex to a deeper comprehension of male and female personality types.

Understanding the male and female types

Every individual embodies both male and female types, with one typically being more dominant, irrespective of their biological sex. This is akin to how each of us has a left and right hand, with one being more dominant, regardless of biological sex. The male and female types extend beyond mere biological differences; they symbolize unique dimensions of personality that shape our perceptions, behaviors, and interactions with our surroundings. The male principle favors autonomy and agency, while the female principle underscores connection and community.

Healthy and unhealthy manifestations

Within integral theory and practice, both types can manifest in healthy and unhealthy forms. The healthy male dimension is drawn towards autonomy, rights, power, and freedom. In contrast, its unhealthy counterpart can manifest as dominance stemming from fear and aggression. Conversely, the healthy female dimension highlights community, care, responsibility, and compassion, whereas its unhealthy version can result in excessive dependency or turmoil in relationships.

The Goal is integration

The male and female types are qualitatively distinct yet equal in significance. They aren’t adversaries but rather complement each other. Both are indispensable for life. As individuals and as a society, our aim shouldn’t be the dominance of one over the other but the harmonious integration of both. Concerns about blurring the distinctions between men and women are baseless. In reality, we stand to gain immensely from such integration. We would foster individuals with a balanced blend of autonomy and connection, power and compassion, freedom and responsibility. Such a balance would naturally extend to society at large. By integrating both types, individuals can cultivate robust, empathetic, and wholesome relationships while preserving their distinctiveness and autonomy. A society composed of such individuals would be markedly different from our current one—more tolerant, egalitarian, and just, yet equally independent, strong, and prosperous. However, to realize this vision, our starting point must be discerning healthy from unhealthy manifestations and integrating the male and female types within ourselves first.

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